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Are You feeling Stuck in Your Thinking?  Take a Hike

5/2/2014

 
Falling under the category of research that confirms what we have already thought might be the case, comes a study from Stanford researchers.  This study talks about the benefit of walking with improving divergent thinking, the thinking that we would call creative.  It seems that a walk will help boost your ability to think "outside the box" and come to a different understanding or resolution than you might otherwise.  A walk doesn't seem to necessarily help with convergent thinking, the thinking that is more linear and requires a rational synthesis of information to arrive at a logical conclusion.  

For more on this study, click here

In addition to the plethora of research supporting the physical benefits of a walk or exercise, there are many studies supporting the mental health benefits of exercise, particularly for mild and moderate depression and anxiety.   So even if you don't come up with some new insight or creative idea, a walk can only help.  
 

Parenting: Unconditional love or Teaching through Praise or Time-outs?

11/6/2009

 
How do we love and accept our children unconditionally while also teaching them what we want to teach them about how to behave in the world?  It is a difficult balancing act--loving the child unconditionally, while either rewarding or expressing disapproval of their behavior--while still expressing "unconditional" acceptance.  While I don't work with young children, I see many adults who are in the process of coming to terms with aspects of themselves that weren't okay to their parents (e.g., anger, sadness, sexual orientation, vulnerability, even holding opinions that differ from parents).  We all come to know what our parents aren't comfortable with or do not like.  Part of the therapeutic work is to re-evaluate a) what we learned about ourselves growing up,  and b) see if we can come to peace with all that we are, even the parts that weren't okay in our families. 

In terms of parenting, the following article does a nice job of exploring the theory and research on unconditional vs. conditional parenting and the recommendations are summed up well in the following paragraph:
"In practice, according to an impressive collection of data by Dr. Deci and others, unconditional acceptance by parents as well as teachers should be accompanied by “autonomy support”: explaining reasons for requests, maximizing opportunities for the child to participate in making decisions, being encouraging without manipulating, and actively imagining how things look from the child’s point of view."

For the entire article, see http://www.nytimes.com/2009/09/15/health/15mind.html?_r=1    I see the above recommendation as a reminder that we are only consultants to our children; that they will grow up and lead whatever life they choose.  Our best parenting is to give them all the acceptance we can and help them learn to choose their life thoughtfully, with the confidence in their own thought that our acceptance and love gives them.  The hardest part is doing that when we don't like their current choices.

Have a Purpose in Life? You Might Live Longer

8/22/2009

 
A lot of psychological research aims to give support to something we may have already thought was true intuitively.  This article falls into that category.   Feeling that your life has purpose, meaning or is important in some way is associated with a longer life.  I'm sure most of us can think of examples of people from our lives who because they kept active, were generous in some way to others, they lived a more vibrant and possibly longer life. 

 http://www.healthday.com/Article.asp?AID=627835

Male Depression Article

8/22/2009

 
Male depression often looks different and at times it is more dangerous.  Below is an good introductory article on male depression from the mayo clinic:

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/male-depression/MC00041 
 

First Post!

7/3/2008

 

Meditation is a Quick Fix for Stress.  A small study from China reports that as little as 20 minutes a day lowers stress hormones, increases energy, and lessens anxiety.  Habits of your mind greatly impact your body (and vice versa!).  For the full article, click here.

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    Dr. Gottfried is a licensed psychologist in private practice.  He created this blog to disseminate psychological information (e.g., interesting research findings, tips for reducing stress and improving relationships, etc.).  It will be updated on an irregular basis.

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